While it's true that a divorce lawyer (such as one from Robert E Long & Associates Ltd) isn't a professional counsellor, they also can't be just a traditional, cold lawyer as far as your concerned. You need to find someone who is going to be good for you specifically, not just good overall. Here are some signs that the lawyer you're trying out on your list of at least three lawyers, is the right one.
They Actually Seem to Care During the Consultation
Your lawyer doesn't need to be your best friend, but they do need to "get" your situation. The case they will be working on is literally a big part of your life. It's not just a series of facts about a crime like with other attorneys, it's emotional and situational details. You're going to need them to sway a judge in a very subjective case.
If you don't click with them, or if it looks like they are only pretending to pay attention to the details, then they may not be the best match for you. Those that seem more genuinely sympathetic are the ones that you want.
They Tell You the Truth
Some divorce attorneys are just going to spend the consult trying to figure out what you to hear so that they can tell you that. They might say that they can absolutely win your case no matter what, they can promise dollar amounts or guarantee that you'll end up with certain assets or with custody.
If this is what you're hearing, you should walk. No divorce attorney can promise these things absolutely. It will depend on many factors outside of your direct control. The ones that will give you the best chance will be the ones who tell you what the realistic situation is and what you can realistically do about it. They will tell you the odds straight up without sugar-coating anything.
It's going to be difficult for any attorney to really see if you match up with them well unless they give you a chance to meet them. If an attorney gives you a free consult, it's a good chance that they are serious about doing the best job possible in your case. Anything else and it could be a bad sign.
Overall, it's true that attorneys need to make money, but it's also true that they must be interested in their job in order to do it properly. And this means that you should get the sense that they can at least be on your side for the duration of your relationship.